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     June 25, 2021      #91-176 KDJ

A positive mindset is a choice 

By Gary W. Moore

I’m still here.

I’m sitting here surrounded by love. Noah is on my left and Caleb on my right, sitting on the sofa. The doorbell just rang and Noah leaps to his feet … pizza.

If circumstances were different, it would be a typical Friday night, but tonight, everyone is feeling a bit subdued. Last week, I shared with you my health news. The outpouring of love has been overwhelming. I will not possibly be able to respond to all the email and social media messages. Just know I’m grateful for each and every one.

I’m not a fatalist. Yes, I’m in hospice, and yes, I’m told that I’m dying, but I struggle to believe that it’s the final word. I’m fighting to stay alive. I will forever be a “prisoner of hope,” and I’ll never stop hoping for life here on Earth, and my ultimate hope is in the promise of Heaven.

So many of you ask, “How do you cope with knowing you are going to die?”

A dear old friend, Roger Roussell sent me this quote …

“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” — Marie Curie

I understand the cold-hard truth that we are all going to die. Some sooner than others, and I suppose I’m on that sooner list. I cope because I know I can rely on God’s promises. If not, I’m sure I’d be a mess. I can cope because I’ve known this day was coming for over a year, and I’m ready. I’d rather not go, but cancer is a killer and we’ve exhausted all our possibilities that we are aware of today. Tomorrow may be a different story.

I have hope that before I die, there will be a breakthrough that gives me more time. If not, that’s OK, too. I’ve lived a big happy life. I have a beautiful and independent family that will carry on.

Last night a tornado passed my daughter’s home within a few blocks and cut a devastating path leaving 34,000 without power. The damage and death toll are still not known. The difficult reality with this life is that it’s never if hardship or tragedy will come, but when. These moments are never easy, and these moments bring about grief, pain, trauma and heartache. When these moments come, we all reach a crossroad — how will we respond?

To be hope-filled, positive and optimistic is not to ignore the hardship, but it’s to face it head-on. It’s a decision to take the bull by the horns (or the cancer) and give the best fight we’ve got all the while choosing to cling to hope and embrace the everyday joys of life.

It isn’t if but when hardship comes. How will you respond?

Since it truly is a choice we make. Why would we choose otherwise?

Today, I choose hope, joy and gratitude.

Gary W. Moore is a freelance columnist, speaker, and author of three books including the award-winning, critically acclaimed “Playing with the Enemy.” He can be contacted through the Daily Journal at editors@daily-journal.com.

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